How to shift from fear of the unknown to a strong position of on your mark get set go

Overcoming fear of the unknown2
We do not fear the unknown. We fear what we think we know about the unknown. (Teal Swan)

“At this point, I was crawling on my knees with a bank loan that I could not service, paralyzed with fear of the unknown, and wondering what was going to happen to my business,” mama Sayo said to me, as she explained why she had to close one of her restaurants.

As I stood in silence next to her, I blinked my eyes a couple of times with my mouth slightly opened, trying to process her words, because it was hard for me to relate between the image of her old self, crawling and confused—and her present self, standing erect and beaming.

I first met mama Sayo four or five years ago at her restaurant, where I used to frequent a lot during lunch time.  The food was fresh and reasonably priced.  We soon became friends, and whenever she missed seeing me for a couple of days, she would ask where I had been.  Then a couple of months ago, when I went to the restaurant, I noticed that the food tasted differently, and the faces of the waiters were new to me, but I did not make much of it.  Then by coincidence, a week or so later, I received a phone call from mama Sayo (by the way, where I come from, some women like to be addressed as ‘mother of so and so…’).   I was a bit surprised and wondered where she had gotten my number.

“I want to invite you to the restaurant where I’ve moved to,” mama Sayo said.  “And please come with your colleagues.”

The next day, I went to mama Sayo’s restaurant, and to my surprise, the place was much bigger than the other one, and everything was well organized.  I also saw some familiar faces of the waiters who had moved with her.

I remember arriving at the restaurant and mama Sayo walking happily towards me, and we stood to exchange pleasantries for some time.  It was at this point that she explained to me that she had to close the other restaurant because it was making huge loses.  As an entrepreneur, it was not an easy decision for her to make as she was afraid of failure and humiliation, and that things would not go as planned and she would live to regret it.  Until one day, she overcame fear of the unknown.

The other restaurant was not easy for customers to locate, but this one is located on the main road and has plenty of parking space.  “Now I am able to pay full attention to this restaurant, instead of having divided attention on two—one of which was making huge loses, mama Sayo said.  “Look at me!  Business is good, and my customers are happy!”

During our conversation we talked about fear of the unknown, and how it leads to inaction, even when you know that what you fear to do is what you need to do, to improve your life.  When it comes to making tough decisions, it is very common to deny the existence of fear and you may choose to remain positive.  But the problem of doing this is that you tend to convince yourself that things will work out—yet you do nothing to make things to work out.  According to mama Sayo, if you truthfully and accurately respond to these four simple questions, you will shift from a state of feeling paralyzed with fear of the unknown, to a strong position of on your mark, get set, go!

  • What is it that I want to do that I have been putting off out of fear?
  • What am I waiting for?
  • If I did what I want to do—what is the worst that could happen?
  • What are the immediate and gradual benefits of doing what I want to do?

Once you answer these questions, the next important thing to do is to go out there and get busy with planning and implementing your health, finance, and relationship goals.  And you will be just fine.  No, actually, you will be super fine!   Much love and all the best!