Making good decisions become easier when you have a personal statement

Making decisions
Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.  (Henry Ford)

The fundraising dinner event was going well, even though I was sited at a table of twelve people who were total strangers to me.  This is because the person who had invited me—a good friend—was one of the organizers and was working during the event.  He had however promised to get me a table with interesting people.  And he did not disappoint.  Sited to my right was an old lady who kept talking about her cat.  On and on she talked about her cat.  To my left was a middle-aged man who was rather quiet, and just smiled and nodded in agreement to everything that was said by people sited at the large round table.

“Gosh!  If this lady says one more thing about her cat, I will surely die,” I said in a whisper to the man sited to my left—whom I got to learn is called Stan.  And he laughed.  Rather loudly to my embarrassment, because people at the table demanded to know what I had just said to Stan.  Covering my eyes with both hands in embarrassment, I said, “Oh!  It’s nothing.  Just me being silly.  Really.”

The short episode must have been a good ice-breaker, because after taking the dessert, Stan opened up and told me that he was feeling stressed because he needed to make a very important decision by Monday morning.

Since I didn’t want to probe him at all on what exactly he needed to make a decision on, I told him that I totally understood how the action of choosing between taking one course of action over another can seem like an easy thing to do, but most of the time it can be daunting and stressful.

As the discussion went on, we both agreed that life is about making decisions in order to move on.  Some decisions will be good, and some will be learning lessons.  Whatever the outcome, life has to move on.  As the discussion got deeper, we considered how vision statements help companies to make decisions.  This is because vision statements summarize the reason why the company exists, and the purpose of it doing what it does.

“So, you think if I have a vision statement it will guide me to make good decisions?” Stan asked, and I responded that it would be helpful.  When you have a personal statement, you have a clear image in your mind of who you want to be, and what you want to achieve in life—and these will guide you in making good decisions, because they will be based on whether or not, they are drawing you close to attaining your purpose in life.

As we parted way and shook hands at the end of the function, we agreed that it is very important to have a personal statement which can be developed by listing down the following:

  • Things you like doing the most
  • Your top-most goals with regards to health, relationships, and money matters
  • Your top-two strengths
  • When your life is ending—what will you regret the most for not doing?

Once this is done, use the information to write down your personal statement.  There is no rule on number of words to be used.  However, keep it to a maximum of two sentences, and pick words that indicate a way forward.  Also consider what you are very good at doing.

With a personal statement at hand, you will feel motivated and inspired to make good and informed decisions that move you from one level of your life to the next.