How to change your thoughts and have a good attitude for success

How to change your thoughts
The grass is greener where you water it. (Neil Barringham)

A trip out of town is always so refreshing, whether it is for work or for pleasure.  It was during one of these trips recently, that I bumped into my neighbor at the airport.  We live in the same block, and are not neighbors-friends, but neighbors-acquaintances if you know what I mean. At first, I wasn’t sure if she had seen me, or whether I really wanted to sit next to her, then in a flash of a second, I heard a loud voice that said, “How are you neighbor?”

Because I was not in the mood of chatting, I pretended not to hear and continued walking towards the empty seats at the furthest end of the waiting room.  “Why should I bother anyway,” I said to myself wearing a poker face.  “Neighbor can be anyone.  Besides, this airport is full of neighbors!”

The moment I sat down, to my surprise, my neighbor was there—right in front of my face!  So, with a broad smile, half-laughing at myself for the way I had acted, and the other half out of politeness, I greeted her.

For the next 30 minutes or so, my neighbor and I—who by the way I got to learn is called Dorothy—spoke about many things, but what I found interesting, was her thinking on attitude and how it affects our life, with or without our knowledge.  From our discussions, we came to the conclusion that simply put, attitude is what you constantly think about a person or a situation – the way you feel and how you respond.  Positive attitude is good. Negative attitude is destructive.   This goes to show that the only thing standing between you and happiness is attitude.  So how do you know if you have a positive or negative attitude?  By simply paying attention to your thoughts and choice of words, and you will just know.

As we walked towards the aircraft after the announcement for boarding was made, Dorothy and I wound up the discussions by agreeing that the greatest investment you can make on yourself is cultivating a positive attitude. This is because, with a positive attitude you will not only be able to position yourself to easily cope with obstacles that come with life—but you will also be able to quickly bounce-back from a rough patch in life—and be successful and happy.  How then do you make the shift from negative to positive attitude?  There are many ways, but the top three are:

1) Appreciate yourself because you are here and you have come this far in life, and the best is yet to come!

2) Know that although you have no control over how people treat you, or what happens to you, you have the power to choose how to respond to what happens to you.  For example, should your business, career, or relationship with someone fail, do not mourn for ‘too long’ (mourning the loss of something or someone is part of being human, so allow yourself to go through the emotions), and do not stay down.  But rather, have a positive attitude and learn the lesson, set new goals, and make a fresh start.

3) Be in charge of your life by taking full responsibility of your actions.  Because deep inside your heart you already know what you need to do to improve your life.  So make it your business and priority—to always do the right thing at the right time.

Remember, having a positive attitude is a choice that when made, will make you happy and successful.  What this means is that your happiness and success in life depends on the quality of your thoughts.  There is power in thinking positively.  Yes there is, and you can start right here and right now by reading the following words loudly to internalize…  “I am a winner!”